Body Language: Understanding Play
Reading the Room: Understanding Playful Body Language in Dogs
Playtime isn’t just fun and games for dogs—it’s an important part of their social development, physical health, and emotional well-being. In fact, I recommend that puppies play off-lead with another dog at least once per week to help their social skills. But how do you know if your dog is playing appropriately, or if things are starting to get too rough? Understanding good playful body language is the key to helping your dog enjoy safe, happy interactions with their canine friends.
Taking Turns: The Etiquette of Fair Play
Good dog play is like a dance—it flows back and forth. In a healthy play session, you’ll often see dogs taking turns chasing, pinning, or being on the bottom during wrestling matches. This kind of role reversal helps keep things balanced and fun for both parties. If one dog is doing all of the chasing or the pinning, move the chaser away and see if the chasee chooses to follow while giving play signals (see below)- if they don’t, it’s time to end the play. Balanced play can easily tip into unbalanced play- and this could quickly become a fight- so make sure to always supervise your dog’s play, especially with new dogs.
Every Dog Plays Differently
Just like people, dogs have unique personalities and play styles. Some are bouncy and love to wrestle, others prefer a good game of chase, and some are more gentle or reserved. It’s important to learn your own dog’s individual play cues so you can advocate for them in group settings. For example, some dogs growl during play—which can be totally normal as long as their body is loose and wiggly. Others may get overwhelmed by rougher play and need a quieter playmate. Well-socialised dogs will often adjust their play style to suit their play partner, toning it down if the other dog isn’t responding well.
Watch the Whole Picture
Good play usually includes:
Loose, relaxed body movements- “floppy” legs and tails
Open mouths and soft eyes
Frequent pauses or self-interruptions- sniff/pee breaks or even just taking a few steps back then both choosing to return to the play
Mutual interest in continuing the game- taking turns to approach and initiate play after breaks
Play bows
Sneezing- this is dog for “I’m just kidding!” and is often part of rough play where the dog wants to reassure their play partner that their growls, nipping etc aren’t aggressive
Signs that things might be tipping into tension or stress include stiff postures, side eye, hard stares, raised hackles, or one dog trying to get away without being allowed to disengage. See my aggressive body language blog for more information on these red flags.
Want to Learn More?
If you're interested in learning more about your dog’s play style, body language, and how to support positive social interactions, I’d love to help! Join one of my group play sessions, where I not only provide a safe environment for dogs to interact, but I’m also happy to chat with you about your individual dog’s behaviour.
Play is an essential part of a dog’s life—and with a little observation and guidance, it can be a safe and joyful one too.
